One of the saddest truths I see as a coach is the overload of successful people feeling completely lonely and isolated, realising they have allowed love to become such a low priority in their life. They've spent so many years focused on their career that they feel stuck and don't know how to shift the balance back to what really makes them happy - being in love! As a result of the balance being so out of whack, they find it hard to get back on the wagon, their confidence to date and be in a relationship is at an all time low, and they find it hard to actually make time in their schedule. To make matters worse, their absence from love has created fear of failure, fear of rejection and sometimes even a fear of intimacy. All these fears simply reinforce a busy schedule as a strategy of justification and avoidance of dating and relationships.
It's not until they accept responsibility and choose not to succumb to fear and avoidance that they are able to break out of the busy-ness mould. Once they commit to facing the issue head on and decide to make love a top priority, the ability to find the time suddenly appears.
Time is always an excuse. It's never the truth. With determination, we can always find the time for anything! The irony is that, by not making enough time for love now, you are actually losing time: time to live a life that is deeply rich, fulfilling, and full of moments that take your breath away. Moments that only relationship can bring.
How to Find Time for Love:
1. Identify the Costs of NOT making time:
What is it really costing you to be so busy that you don't have time to find or build your relationships?
2. Believe it's Worth it:
Why is it important TO YOU to put finding love or nourishing your relationship as a top priority?
3. Be Honest with Yourself:
What are you afraid of happening if you do make the time to find that perfect partner or give more love to the one you have?
4. Embrace the Risk:
What would it take for you to see facing the fear as a challenge worth enjoying? How will taking the risk add to your life, irrespective of the outcome?
5. Let go of any Work Life Imbalance Challenges:
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6. Make the Decision:
Decide you will make finding love or working on your current relationship your absolute top priority - above work! Make the commitment to yourself and keep it top of mind. Base your planning around this commitment.
Now is the only time you have to really enjoy your life. And the greatest life is the one filled with the joy of love, intimacy and relationship. Let go of putting your to-do list ahead of your happiness. Make the commitment, take the leap and swim in the ocean of opportunity...
