The Love Oracle

Q: I've been with my fiance for four years. We've been through a lot together and have a set a date to get married in early 2009. We both love each other but recently I've been thinking he's not the one. Is it just pre wedding jitters?

Nervous NSW

A: Marriage is such a huge commitment - it's normal to be working through your doubts and fears before such a big life choice and change. I'm shown that there is a very deep soul connection between the two of you. You both have lessons to learn from the other and there are children ahead for you with this man. Marriage is a good choice for both of you and you need, like every good relationship, to work at it. I see that you both have the qualities to make this commitment go the long haul - so be honest about your doubts and fears and talk them out if you need to. Your wedding day will be magical and beautiful.

Q: I've been dating a women I like for seven months - she's great but I don't get on with her young daughter - what should I do?

Jim, SA

A: I'm shown that it's never going to be easy between you and this girl. It's not personal, she just doesn't want to share her mum and will do anything to stop that happening. I can see her behaviour is very challenging around you and that's not going to improve - largely because her mother turns a blind eye to most of it - an approach you find very frustrating! Finally this dynamic is going to become too much for you. I see you moving on and hooking up with a woman who has no kids, a situation that suits you much better in the longer term.

Q: I had a short and intense relationship with a guy who had just broken up with his wife - in a couple of months we had planned to get married. He ended things with me to go back to her. Now two years on he contacted me saying he's divorced and wants to see me - should I risk being hurt a second time?

High and dry, VIC

A: This man is scared of being alone. He has contacted you before the ink was dry on his divorce papers to avoid the reality of living solo. I"m being shown it would be a big mistake for you to get back together with him - he would be using you to avoid his own pain. He's not ready to be in relationship with anyone until he sorts out his relationship with himself. It's time for you let this one go, mark it up to experience and be with a man who can totally be there for you. I see you meeting him in the next 12-18 months - you won't look back.

Q: I'm with a guy who's perfect for me in every way except he has no ambition and only does casual jobs to cover his basic expenses. I'm a successful businesswoman - can we make it work?

Business Betty

A: This situation is proof that opposites do attract! There's a great deal of chemistry between the two of you and you love the challenge this man throws you but he's not going to change. He will love and support you emotionally but never financially. If you can live with that - and I can see that you are prepared to for some time, then yes it will work. In the long term his lack of direction and motivation is going to frustrate you and I can see that you will find it difficult to respect his choices. You will find true happiness with a man who is very similar to your ex-husband - accomplished and professional.

Q: I met this guy and I was sure we had a mutual attraction. He contacts me sporadically but we never seem to manage to meet up - what's his story?

Confused

A: This man is suffering from an acute case of game playing. He's not being straight with you about his intentions or his feelings, which I'm shown is a repeating pattern in his life. Consider the confusion you feel when you deal with him a big sign telling you not to go there sister! If it helps, I get that he does like you but that you deserve someone who can really show up for you.

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