The Love Oracle

Dud love life

Q: I have been married to my second wife for 5 years. I really love her and don't know what I would do without her but our love life is not what it should be. When we make love it can be very intense but then there is a break of a week or two which drives me insane.

I would like to make love to my wife every day but she says it's too much. I am 52, should I be taking medication to slow me down?

I don't want to have an affair but I am constantly frustrated sexually.

Wondering

A: You say your love life is not what it should be but there are no hard and fast rules about how often couples should make love.

It's a negotiation between two people who often have different expectations, needs and wants.

What I hear from you is that you have sex regularly and when you do it's good. That's a pretty strong base between you.The conflict is that you would like it to be every day - a situation in a long term relationship which is pretty rare.

The first step is to value what is good about your physical relationship and respect your partners position and the second is for you to talk to a relationship therapist about how you can meet your needs without creating a situation that might break up your marriage.

Insatiable sexual desire can be a cover for other issues - a deep need to connect or a way of numbing unresolved areas of your life.

When you can learn to negotiate the strong feelings that arise for you when you are not having intimacy and understand what is driving them, then you will move into a more harmonious place physically with your partner, who by the way, will then want to make love with you more!

Just not into me?

Q: Hi Julie, I have recently started dating a lovely guy but after four dates I'm not sure where it is heading as he can be quite shy. I think he is wonderful but is he really interested?

Candi

A: I know it's hot out there right now but it's time to take a chill pill!

You've only seen each other for four dates, so give it time. If he's still meeting with you, calling you and sending txt's - he's interested - that's a given.

The guidance is for you to have fun with this and stop trying to turn this into something bigger than it is yet.

You want the security of knowing how he feels because you are smitten, but he is slower to show his heart so give him space and time. If you're still not sure after forty dates it's time to write back!

Curious

Q: Hi Julie, I have been a straight woman my whole life and incredibly have fallen madly in love with a woman in recent years.

We have not gotten together, and probably never will, but I am convinced this love is real and true. My heart seems to just know.

What does the love oracle see?

Sally

A: I'm been shown that this has been part of your sexuality for many years but it was locked away until now.

This woman has been a catalyst in opening it up for you and it's safe for you explore it.

I don't see you with her, she came into your life to cause this change and now this is done.

This was a karmic agreement between the two of you and you have known her before in a past life, which explains the deep heart connection.

This is a time of great transformation for you in relationship, so experiment and enjoy.

Fear of commitment

Q: Hi Julie I met this guy online and we went out a few times, things were going well but he went awol.

He came back, apologised and said he wanted to spend more time with me, things were okay for two weeks until he said he just wanted to hang out as friends.

Do you see a future for him and me? Please help!

Shaken not stirred

A: No future here I'm afraid. Unless you want to be in a chaotic on/off again situation with a man who is not reliable.

It's not personal, he likes you, but this is all he has to offer to anyone long term. The good news is that I get you are in very ready to be in relationship, so dust yourself off and go back out on the dating scene with a revised wish list and you will find that 2009 will bring you love and romance.

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